tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3111959418563495652.post3348990431878562745..comments2023-04-14T00:42:50.052-07:00Comments on Asking Jane: Why The Big Family?Nataliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12768195400316361623noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3111959418563495652.post-18652331101184231242010-01-29T19:15:00.548-08:002010-01-29T19:15:00.548-08:00It's so refreshing to read about topics that I...It's so refreshing to read about topics that I constantly wonder about myself. I am the 6th of 9 children all raised by my mother(parents divorced). Anyway, as a mother of two shortly after the second one came and my husband in night school and in the bishopric I asked myself How did my mother do it? And the bigger question...why did she do that to herself? I know that sounds a bit awful but it's what I thought. Things are not as stressful now that my baby is older. I do want a large family but the thought is sometimes daunting and I want to make sure I can give them all the love and attention they need. I really appreciate being able to read your words of wisdom! Thank you for taking the time to share.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10442908846600811527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3111959418563495652.post-32519706693313312672010-01-20T19:48:07.683-08:002010-01-20T19:48:07.683-08:00ok, I am a total mess from your post! By far the m...ok, I am a total mess from your post! By far the most beautiful few paragraphs I've read all week. I'm the "baby" of 3 kids, and always wanted a big family. Today as a mom of 2 sweet babes under 4yrs, I pray that we are blessed with many more children. And I promise to visit another day when I am not in total tears! Thank you so much for sharing your wisdom.joeyandaleetheahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11689060448998841346noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3111959418563495652.post-43014709464981979862010-01-08T10:57:02.348-08:002010-01-08T10:57:02.348-08:00I love this post. I came from a family where ther...I love this post. I came from a family where there was just myself and 4 years younger, my brother. It was lonely and although we're friends now, my brother and I were not close and fought constantly as children. We loved being with my cousins when they come to visit - 7+ of them. My husband, on the other hand, was 1 of 5 biological, with 2 adopted, and multiple foster children. I have pictures of him splitting wood for their wood stove before he was in school. I can't say their family was the most functional, but most came out with a great work ethic and a love for children and family. We have 2 and hope to have at least 2 more. I could be happy with 4 more, but the thought makes my husband have heart palpitations :^)Fichtner Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01652849908238385374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3111959418563495652.post-22126023499594890962010-01-07T18:54:23.968-08:002010-01-07T18:54:23.968-08:00Beautifully written. It is amazing how many good ...Beautifully written. It is amazing how many good lessons are taught simply by living in a large family. You certainly don't have to invent work so your kids get that experience, and I think there's a tenderness in the older kids when there are little ones about. Thank you for sharing!Handsfullmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17080603359227234634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3111959418563495652.post-21406323296920882612010-01-03T12:56:20.151-08:002010-01-03T12:56:20.151-08:00Hello, my mom very strongly suggested I read your ...Hello, my mom very strongly suggested I read your new blog, even though I'm definitely not a mother, but she wants it to help establish my parenting ideals. I told her I already listen to Dr. Laura, what else do I need? She responded that I also need a Dr. Jane...so clever.<br />But I just want to say that I love this post. The greatest thing in the world really is to have a house full of people. When my siblings come over during holidays, we sit around, talk play games, before we know it its the end of the day and honestly can't name a single thing we did. So often we try to define our days or our lives by our accomplishments, when really what its all about is relationships we build, the person we are, how we treat others (you see where this is going). That is just an unspoken lesson my big family of 7 has taught me. But a few accomplishments on the side are always nice as well ;) <br />~AnnaAnnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12958951161880720484noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3111959418563495652.post-56385272840689810472010-01-02T19:33:51.401-08:002010-01-02T19:33:51.401-08:00I love how you said the greatest lessons your kids...I love how you said the greatest lessons your kids learned were from lessons you didn't teach..that just happened naturally by coming from a big family and having to share and be more selfless. My mom use to say about big families, <br />"It's hard on the parents but it's really good for the children."Grandma Honeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09587160523698527979noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3111959418563495652.post-61501023391570200442010-01-02T17:38:14.655-08:002010-01-02T17:38:14.655-08:00I love this because it rings so true to me. It is...I love this because it rings so true to me. It is sad that people just don't know what they are missing. I can understand why people have smaller families, especially when they only have a few siblings themselves. With my four I sometimes feel like I can barely keep everything together as it is. Things can get hectic at times. But because I grew up in a very functional large family, I know that it can be done well and that it is worth the sacrifices made. Nothing brings me greater happiness than being surrounded by my little boys, but being with my many siblings is a close second.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12768195400316361623noreply@blogger.com